Marriages does not fail because we are bad people. Marriages fail because we are real people. Real people with Real emotions and Real needs .- Femi Adediran, 2020
There are no ideal marriages, only real marriages. And if it is ideal, it is not real! – Femi Adediran, 2020
Nothing can be as hurtful and heartbreaking as a deceitful partner. – Femi Adediran, 2020
Samson didn’t fall for Delilah because she was so beautiful but because he found a “secured place” “a home”, a place of comfort and self-assurance on her laps, that he forgot to go back “home” – Femi Adediran, 2020
Not every marriage is a home. Ironically, every “home” is a “type of marriage” – Femi Adediran, 2020
Some marriages are made in Heaven. Some are made in hell. The difference is in where “home” is situated – Femi Adediran, 2020
Marriages does not fail because we are bad people. Marriages fail because we are real people. Real people with Real emotions and Real needs. There are no ideal marriages, only real marriages. And if it is ideal, it is not real! The reality of our marriages is in the fact that we are as similar as we are different and we are as different as we are similar. There are similarities in our differences and there are differences in our similarities. This shows that we are still unique individuals in spite our union.
It is perfectly human to have needs and express our emotions. Issues arise when we expect angelic manifestations from human beings. We become easily disappointed when we hold ourselves to standard so high. You be able to pretend elsewhere but not in the “living Room” of marriage. There’s no hiding place in marriage, you can only be as naked. Marriage is the only place where you must be naked if you must be covered. It is the only place where if you cover anything, you will eventually become naked.
Marriages run into chaos when we try to hide ” where there is no hiding place” . And if you ever succeed in hiding, it can only be for so long. Nothing can be as hurtful and heartbreaking as a deceitful partner. Deceitfulness will eventually lead to insecurity. When we don’t feel secure in our marriage, “cheating” on our spouse is always the result.
We all seek Spiritual, emotional, financial security. We all want to be in a “secured place” even if it were to be in the arm of another man or woman as long as it is identified as “secured”. That is why some people still talk about having a best friend apart from their spouse. It is about security. Samson didn’t fall for Delilah because she was so beautiful but because he found a “secured place” “a home”, a place of comfort and self-assurance on her laps that he forgot to go back “home”. Not every marriage is a home. Ironically, every home is a “type of marriage”.
Make your marriage a home. Some marriages are made in Heaven. Some are made in hell. The difference is in where “home” is situated.
To be continued…
Femi Adediran…Olufire nooni