Marriage: The Truth, The Lies, And The Untold Stories (3)

The biggest favour any man can do to his children is to love their mum. The children will be better for it …- Femi Adediran, 2020

Make dancing with your wife a regular practice. It’s a good way to renew your friendship.- Femi Adediran, 2020

There is more hope for a single person than for a couple that is not united. It is better to stay single than to be in a marriage with no unity. A marriage “not united” will take so much from you until it takes your last breath. Be warned!- Femi Adediran,  2020

Quick forgiveness is your passport to a “success full” marriage, the quicker you forgive your partner, the “fuller your success” will be- Femi Adediran,  2020

 If you want people to read a book, write with bold inscriptions on it : ” DO NOT READ”. It will amaze you how many readers you will get within the hour. Restrictions increases curiosity .- Femi Adediran,  2020

 Marriage is real work. But marriages don’t just work. It is the married that must go to work. Marriage only work when we work. Your marriage cannot be better that the input you made into it. Even if miracle must happen, it can only happen because you prayed…and work. – Femi Adediran,  2020

 You must understand this also that your spouse can’t be everything to you. Your friends are your friends, you parent are your parent, your family are your family and your children are your children. You must know where to draw the line else you are setting up yourself for an unhappy married life living in your own “self-made prison”. – Femi Adediran,  2020

 By default and design, marriage is expected to give us an idea of what Heaven will be like.

Every experience of marriage is expected to be sweet, soothing and comforting. Anything short of this is “unacceptable”.

Marriage is not designed to be of “convenience” but of comfort. It must first and foremost be comforting before it becomes convenient

 There’s a secret power of marriage, it is called The Power of unity. Unity in marriage is like a dynamo…powerful energy to be and to become. Any united couple will seemingly effortlessly experience speed

When couples are not united it takes a longer time to achieve a little thing. Each time there is misunderstanding at the point of achievement, success setting becomes disrupted depriving us of “energy and speed”

There is more hope for a single person than for a couple that is not united. It is better to stay single than to be in a marriage with no unity. A marriage “not united” will take so much from you until it takes your last breath. Be warned!

Treat your marriage as a spiritual project and not just an emotional monument . Be wary of disagreement at the wake of an accomplishment. Be quick to forgive your spouse for your “own sake”. Quick forgiveness is your passport to a “success full” marriage, the quicker you forgive your partner, the “fuller your success” will be.

Marriage is real work. But marriages don’t just work. It is the married that must go to work. Marriage only work when we work. Your marriage cannot be better that the input you made into it. Even if miracle must happen, it can only happen because you prayed…and work.

You must understand this also that your spouse can’t be everything to you. Your friends are your friends, you parent are your parent, your family are your family and your children are your children. You must know where to draw the line else you are setting up yourself for an unhappy married life living in your own “self-made prison”.

Avoid the temptation of “possessiveness” and “overprotectiveness”. It is an invitation to cross the boundary to the other side. We become more curious with restrictions. If you want people to read a book, write with bold inscriptions on it : ” DO NOT READ”. It will amaze you how many readers you will get within the hour. Restrictions increases curiosity.

Make dancing with your wife a regular practice. Its a good way to renew your friendship. The biggest favour any man can do to his children is to love their mum. The children will be better for it…

To be continued…

 Femi Adediran…Olufire Nooni

 Olufire@gmail.com

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