When we talk about “model homes”, we are talking about couples who are smart enough to hide “their own ugliness” from all of us. – Femi Adediran, 2020
Once we get married, our “most convincing and most assuring” mirror is our spouse. Anybody can say anything to you, as long as it’s not your spouse, it not hold much water. But when our spouse say anything to and about us, we naturally become as “pronounced”. If our spouse kept telling us we are dumb, the Spirit of God will have to do extra work on our minds to convince us otherwise. Such is the power of our spouses mirror – Femi Adediran, 2020
Marriage could be your sinking point or your soaring point. Marriage could be your starting point or your ending point. Whichever way the pendulum swings. Our spouses have the answers . – Femi Adediran, 2020
No “unmarried person” is qualified to counsel the married no matter the degree of the anointing! Not until you show me your result will i be able to make you my resort.- Femi Adediran, 2020
If you really want to be a marriage counselor, go get married or fix your broken marriage. Counselling is about empathy, and until you can wear my shoe you can never feel my pain! – Femi Adediran, 2020
No devil in hell can stop a man that is propelled by love! – Femi Adediran, 2020
Competing with your spouse or trying to get ahead of your spouse so you can be at forefront is sheer foolishness. You are better (best) off when you move together, complementing one another in love – Femi Adediran, 2020
The best marriage counsel you can ever receive are from fellow married people as you even if they don’t “appear anointed”…they feel the heat as you. And if they can smile in spite the heat, you had better be talking with them. Enough of marriage counseling from books! – Femi Adediran, 2020
Marriages are not as beautiful as they appear. There’s an ugliness that under underlies every marriage. And we are only happy to the extent that we are able to accept our own ugliness making lemonade out of our bitter lemon…making message out of our mess. Every beautiful marriage has its ugliness and every seemingly ugly marriage has its underlying and perhaps “yet to be realized beauty”
When we talk about “model homes”, we are talking about couples who are smart enough to hide “their own ugliness” from all of us. Marriage truly is a mixture of beauty and ugliness. Mixture of sorrow and joy. And as long as the day and the night exist, we all will have our own share of the good and evil of marriage. We are on the high sea and until we reach the shore, our ship will experience all kinds of weather. If every married couple will realize and internalize this, it will “deliver us” from having too high expectations from our marriages and save us from heart attacks that comes from too many surprises
What do you say of home with great wealth but with challenged children? How about marriages with children yet no means of feeding them? How about those living with epileptic spouse though look so beautiful together outside? How about those marriages who have had to cope with “cheating spouses” day in day out? How about marriages with endless family problems? How about wife who had become bread winners because their husbands are lazy? Marriage remains a mystery to be unfolded everyday. A mystery that can be interesting or distasteful depending on our dispositions or attitude
How about couples who never sees any good in themselves? No matter how good you see yourself or how good others see you, if your spouse don’t see you that way, it becomes a distorted view.
Once we get married, our “most convincing and most assuring” mirror is our spouse. Anybody can say anything to you, as long as it’s not your spouse, it not hold much water. But when our spouse say anything to and about us, we naturally become as “pronounced”. If our spouse kept telling us we are dumb, the Spirit of God will have to do extra work on our minds to convince us otherwise. Such is the power of our spouses mirror. A lot of promising young men and women have become “sunk” in marriage not necessarily because of marriage of “marriage stress” but because they got the wrong mirror that influences their thoughts wrongly making them lose their steam and courage for outstanding life performance
Marriage could be your sinking point or your soaring point. Marriage could be your starting point or your ending point. Whichever way the pendulum swings. Our spouses have the answers. We are like raw materials in the hands of our spouses. We can become almost anything when our spouses support and encourage us contrary to the believe that marriage kills our vision and drives for life. With a loving right attitude from your spouse, you are on your way to greatness!
Every man and woman responds to love…positively. We become as we are loved. If only we have the right man and woman that can and would love us through anything. No devil in hell can stop a man that is propelled by love. That is why every married couple should fight to make love stay in their marriages because when love is out of the window, it is nearly impossible to achieve any other one thing together. Things get easier with love even in the most difficult environment . It is wisdom to make your spouse unstoppable loving each other through the thick and the thin. Loving each other through the bend and the curves
Competing with your spouse or trying to get ahead of your spouse so you can be at forefront is sheer foolishness. You are better (best) off when you move together, complementing one another in love. Another foolish thing a lot of married people do is to seek advice from “unmarried people” – Their single friends, the divorced, the separated, the single parents. This is one folly too many. There’s no two way about it, such people will end up as their counselors. Each time we are counseled, we receive impartation to go the way of our counselor. Be careful who you receive counsel from!
No “ummarried person” is qualified to counsel the married no matter the degree of the annointing! Not until you show me your result will i be able to make you my resort. If you really want to be a marriage counselor, go get married or fix your broken marriage. Counseling is about empathy, and until you can wear my shoe you can never feel my pain!
The best marriage counsel you can ever receive are from fellow married people as you even if they don’t “appear anointed”…they feel the heat as you. And if they can smile inspite the heat, you had better be talking with them. Enough of marriage counseling from books!
To be continued…
Femi Adediran…Olufire Nooni