When it comes to generosity, your first port of call should be your spouse and no other person. Do you know why? No one truly cares about you as your spouse and when the chips are down, your spouse will be the first person to bear the brunt! So, why would your spouse not be the first recipient of your generosity? – Femi Adediran, 2020
Be overly generous with with your resources with your spouse first and foremost. Every other person…including your children are secondary! – Femi Adediran, 2020
If you really want to see a changed world, start living by example before your children. – Femi Adediran, 2020
The only way to have internal control in your marriage is to keep away from external influences as much as you can. When you are internally stable, you will become externally formidable . – Femi Adediran, 2020
Beware of Spiritual and Emotional leakage in your marriage, the result is always a bad wreckage – Femi Adediran, 2020
If you really want to be happy in marriage, you must stop treating matters as “National Security Issues” demanding all seriousness. – Femi Adediran, 2020
Don’t take yourself so seriously else you will perpetually live under pressures and things will get worse. You must be able to laugh over everything and over anything. With laughter comes clarity of solutions. Things get clearer and softer When you laugh. Solutions ( solid) can only flow in excited state – Femi Adediran, 2020
If your marriage is blessed with children, be responsible enough to influence them positively. Parents are steward of influence over their children. The adults of today are the influenced children of yesterday. If you really want to see a changed world, start living by example before your children. Every married couple must learn to “keep secret”. Not because we have done evil but because the strength of our union is in our ability to “keep things” strictly between us. If you can keep a “sealed lip”, you will save your marriage from a lot of trouble
Do not wash your dirty linen in the open. Avoid “fighting dirty” so you would be able to “fight again”. No matter what the situation is between you and your spouse, never ever expose “their secrets”, “your secrets”…It is called integrity. It is a great “relief” to know that no matter what happens between you and your spouse, you are still “safe” with them. The less you talk to others about your marriage, the more secure it becomes. Rather, pray more and talk less. The only way to have internal control in your marriage is to keep away from external influences as much as you can. When you are internally stable, you will become externally formidable.
Beware of Spiritual and Emotional leakage in your marriage, the result is always a bad wreckage. Every marriage needs a brainstorming session from time to time. Don’t just think apart, think together. Critically look at issues together and be sincere enough to “adopt” the truth. The result will amaze you. Do not wish to have the kind of marriage your friend have, you will only compound your own marriage trouble. Rather, build your own dream marriage. Have a master plan for your marriage, go over it from time to time until it becomes your reality. Every good marriage you see has its own complimentary troubles. If you are so in love with your friends marriage, get ready for its trouble too.
If you really want to be happy in marriage, you must stop treating matters as “National Security Issues” demanding all seriousness. Don’t take yourself so seriously else you will perpetually live under pressures and things will get worse. You must be able to laugh over everything and over anything. With laughter comes clarity of solutions. Things get clearer and softer When you laugh. Solutions ( solid) can only flow in excited state. Sometimes we get tired of our spouses. When this happens. it is time to take a break. You have to go visit with your parents or old friends. Marriage shouldn’t get so boring that it becomes distasteful.
Anything can become boring even our marriages, it is your creativity that will save the day
Beating your spouse(wife) make you feel like a man…But there is no greater madness than that, even a mad man deserves greater respect than you, he have lost his mind but not his respect. When it comes to generosity, your first port of call should be your spouse and no other person. Do you know why? No one truly cares about you as your spouse and when the chips are down, your spouse will be the first person to bear the brunt! So, why would your spouse not be the first recipient of your generosity?
Be overly generous with your resources with your spouse first and foremost. Every other person…including your children are secondary! When your spouse is okay, you can be sure, every other thing will naturally fall in place…Even your children will be happier.
Marriage will either make you better or bitter. The choice is yours!
To be continued….
Femi Adediran…Olufire Nooni